Are you the sort of bride who’s been dreaming of her big day since she was a little girl? Or are you somebody who never thought you’d be get married and are surprised to find yourself picking stationery and choosing between vintage birdcages?
Either way, you’re in good company. We asked our Facebook friends about what they’re really looking forward to on their own wedding day and whether or not their big day dreams have changed.
Sometimes, little girls don’t always have the most realistic expectations, as one real bride realised. “The unlimited budget I had in my mind has obviously changed so, due to that, pretty much everything is different!”
The same can’t be said for Kate however. “Everything is exactly how I always dreamed it would be – a grand princess fairytale wedding,” she explains. “My dad promised me that it would be perfect years ago and he didn’t disappoint.”
Real bride Laura’s childhood dream transformed into something more modest. “I always thought I’d be the new Cinderella. With the big castle, big dress and thousands of guests,” says Laura. “Now it’s changed to wanting a small laid-back wedding that’s just lots of fun.”
Changing wedding plans
Other brides have changed their minds about lots of things… from colour schemes to who they were going to marry!
“I changed my colour scheme,” says Jemma. “I’ve always wanted a baby pink and blue wedding, but now I’m having a Cadbury purple wedding with butterflies. I’m also marrying a woman.”
However, Sam has kept to her plan. “I’ve always wanted burgundy, green and cream for my wedding and I’ve always wanted to get married near Christmas. We get married on 30th November this year and I’m having the day I’ve always wanted.”
Liane is marrying somebody quite different expected: “I dreamed of marrying Channing Tatum. Instead have settled for my 6’2” ginger partner who’s a mechanic – quite a drastic change to my dreams!”
Surprise big days
Some of you were surprised that you were even getting married!
“Throughout my childhood, teens and early adulthood, I never planned on getting married,” says Tracey. “It wasn’t until my partner proposed that I actually wanted to get married.”
“I never thought about what type of wedding I wanted until Tom proposed,” agrees Marie. “As far as I was concerned I wasn’t planning on getting married because there wasn’t anybody for me.”
“I was dead set on not getting married because I saw it as a waste of money,” says Sarah. “That wasn’t until I met my husband and I realised what it all really means and that it’s not about the money.”
Well, it goes to show that you never know what’s going to happen in your future. Keep dreams as flexible as possible and don’t be too rigid in your expectations, because you never know what could happen. Talk to your other half about the type of wedding you want because he may not be comfortable with the big extravagant event you’ve always imagined and it may suit the pair of you far more to have a simpler, smaller do.
At the end of the day you both want to enjoy yourselves and a lot of marriage is about compromise. So find some common ground about what you both want and take it from there.