There’s a lot of pressure on the groom to write the perfect wedding speech. But what does your new wife really want to hear you say on your big day? We asked the experts at Great Speech Writing to hand over their top tips.

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What Your Bride Wants to Hear in Your Groom’s Speech

You popped the question, the date’s set, the venue’s booked, invitations have been sent and the stag weekend is in hand. It’s just that minor detail of a groom’s speech still to be written. Keep your new wife happy on the big day with these tips.

Big up the Bride

Although it’s good practice to mention the best man and your ushers while poking fun at them at their expense, always remember that your wedding day is about your bond with your bride, not your best mates. Whatever you do, don’t spend the majority of your groom speech reminiscing about your lads holiday – or you’ll have one unhappy bride.

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Thank your new in-laws

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If your bride chooses not to speak at the wedding, she probably won’t get the chance to thank her parents publicly for all they’ve done in helping to organise the big day, and for all the help, love and support provided over the years. So it’s down to you to do it for her – and she’ll love you for it.

She’s Your Wife – Don’t be shy Mentioning it!

Nothing gets more of heart-warming cheer than the line “my wife and I…”. It’s predictable and a little bit cheesy, but the novelty of hearing it for the first time never fails to make a new bride smile, or indeed every one of your guests.

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Using the occasional predictable phrase, as above, is fine, but don’t get too reliant on these one-liners, or your speech could easily sound like an internet cut and paste job. Your new bride wants you to talk about her, so be creative and keep it personal.

Mention her Looks

Dazzling, stunning, beautiful – however you wish to say it, make sure you comment on her appearance, and in a positive way. The expensive dress, designer jewellery, trips to the hairdressers, manicures and facials count for something!

Remember This is a Celebration of Love

It isn’t your chance to deliver a 10-minute comedy stand-up routine. So try to combine your witty one-liners with a good dose of sincerity. Why did you ask her to marry you? What is it about her that you adore? How has your life changed (for the better!) since you met her? Which of your bad habits does she have to live with?

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Delete all Stories of ex-girlfriends

Your new wife isn’t about your past, there’s a time and a place for mentioning the exes, and the groom’s speech isn’t one of them.

Direct Your Speech to her

Although you’re giving a speech to, what is often, a large number of people, you don’t always have to talk to the room. It can be far more meaningful and personal if, when you’re talking about your wife, you actually speak to and make eye contact with her. But remember to keep projecting your voice. Your wife will want the guests to hear what you have to say about her, even if you’re not addressing them.

If you’re still concerned about how to keep your bride happy during the speech, then get in touch with Lawrence Bernstein from He and his team are always happy to give free advice, act as a sounding board, or edit the speech for you.


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