What to Include in Your Groom’s Speech
Your groom’s speech is your chance to thank guests, express your love for your new wife, and tell your guests just how much you appreciate them being there. Here’s a few things to bear in mind…
How to start your groom’s speech
Respond to the father of the bride
Seeing as the groom speech traditionally follows the father of the bride, start by responding to what he said in his, even if he made fun of you a little bit.
A witty, but not over-the-top reply will set a nice tone for the rest of your speech. Plus, remember to thank him for all he’s done for the wedding, especially if you’ve gone the traditional route with the bride’s fam paying for the whole big day.
Appreciate your guests
While they may not have contributed to the wedding planning process, your wedding guests deserve a bit of appreciation in your groom’s speech. Not only are they the people in your life that are worth inviting to celebrate your big day, they made an effort to be there. Some will have travelled a long way, most will have bought a new outfit, and almost all would have got you a special gift to congratulate you and your new wife!
Who should you thank in your groom’s speech?
Address the bride’s family
Now it’s time to thank the rest of the bride’s family! Here, you can tell all your guests just how they’ve helped you in bringing this perfect day together, but also how they welcomed you into the family. Chat about memories and let them know how special they’ve made you feel, and how special they are to you.
Thank your family
Your mum may have helped your new wife pick that all-important dress, your sisters might have had a few late nights making bunting for your big day, and your dad gave you some top advice on this speech. So, you’re bound to have a fair few thank yous to deliver to your own family.
Don’t just thank them for helping with the wedding of course. If they’ve helped get you to where you are today, don’t forget them in your groom speech!
Include the bridesmaids
Your bride’s VIP girls! You can’t get away without mentioning these ladies, otherwise you might have a squad of matching dresses on your case once the speeches are over.
Plus, if your new wife isn’t making a speech, she’ll most definitely want you to make a thing of how great they’ve been – even the bad bridesmaids will have played their part at some point of the wedding planning process! Psst… make sure you tell them how beautiful they look, too.
Examples for your groom’s speech
Take a leaf out of McFly’s Tom Fletcher’s book…
Mention your groomsmen
Now, for your righthand men! Because choosing your groomsmen was probably one of your main tasks to do with the wedding, there’s a lot you can say in your groom speech.
Talk about why you chose them, and what they’ve been doing to help your big day run smoothly. Avoid inside jokes from the stag do; it’s likely that most of your wedding guests weren’t there, so just won’t get it.
Thank your best man
After all, Batman couldn’t be without Robin, could he? The groom and the best man are usually inseparable during the highs and lows of wedding planning. The moment there’s any sign of bridezilla, the best man will know about it.
We’re sure he’ll have been a huge support to you, and because you’ve had so many memories, you’ll have a lot to talk about. But remember to chat to your best man about what’s in his speech – you don’t want him repeating things that you’ve said in yours.
Thank everyone else who helped
The list of everyone who contributed towards the big day might be endless, but give the main helpers a shoutout! Maybe you made the most of a close friend’s baking skills for your wedding cake, or maybe your relative is a keen dress maker?
Big features like that deserve to be appreciated, and if you really don’t have time to get through the list of all the helpers, a shoutout to the vague ‘everyone else who helped’ will do, but remember to give them a little thank you when you see them.
How should you end your groom’s speech?
Toast the bride
A toast to the bride in your groom’s speech is pretty crucial, but we’re sure you already knew that. Now’s the chance to talk about the effort that she’s put in, how well she’s pulled it off, how beautiful she looks, and of course, how happy you are to be marrying her.
But it’s not as simple as that! We’re not putting the words into your mouth – embellish it with a bit of nostalgia and sentimentality. Talking about the ‘little things’ about the bride will make it that extra bit special for her and your guests. Here’s a little more on what the bride wants to hear in that speech of yours, just in case you’re not sure.
How long should your groom’s speech be?
Try to aim for between seven and eight minutes – this should keep guests amused and engaged for long enough, before you force them to get restless or bored. Don’t make it too short, though – guests will wonder why you even bothered otherwise!
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