Wedding Checklist: 7 Essential Questions You Didn’t Know To Ask.
You’ve already answered — or asked — the most important question of all: will you marry me? But the wedding planning process doesn’t come without a few queries of its own. And, while some questions will arise naturally, there are others you should be sure to ask regardless of the where, when, why and how of your wedding. They’ll give you all the important information you need to make your big day perfect.
The only problem is, you don’t know what these big enquiries should be — until now. Here are seven of the most important questions to ask in the days, weeks and months leading up to your wedding:
1.What do I do with my veil?
You’ve chosen the perfect accessories to go with your gown. You also know you don’t want to wear your veil all night long. If you don’t think about it beforehand, though, you might be stuck with your veil on, if you don’t want to mess up your hair or leave it somewhere unattended.
The best time to take your veil off is after your ceremony or after your first dance. That way, you have time to take it off carefully, preserving your hairdo for the reception. Plus, you can find a safe spot to store your veil — some brides simply drape it over their chairs as a sort of decoration.
2. How will the wedding party get from the ceremony to the reception?
You’ve already figured out how you will entertain guests between the ceremony and reception, a period in which many wedding parties take group photos. You’ve also decided how you and your new husband or wife will travel — in style, we imagine — from location to location. But what you haven’t thought about is how your wedding party will do the same.
It’s important to remember that they’ll likely need rides, too. Whether they’ve been drinking a little liquid courage prior to walking down the aisle with you, or they’re wearing gowns that would make driving uncomfortable or unsafe, they’ll need transportation, and it’s up to you to figure it out. Even if you’re going casual with a carpool, make sure your bridal party knows so that someone can be a responsible sober driver. Or, arrange a party bus, trolley or limo.
3. Where do I put my engagement ring?
Obviously, you’re going to wear your engagement ring on the day of your wedding — it’s the reason why you’re there in the first place. But you don’t want your engagement ring getting in the way of the ceremonial exchanging of the wedding bands.
So, simply slip your engagement ring onto your ring finger — of your right hand. Once the ceremony’s over and you’ve successfully gotten your wedding rings on, put your engagement ring back in its rightful left-hand position, where it’ll stay for the rest of your life.
4. Can I wear other jewellery my dress?
You already have a pretty important piece of jewellery, your engagement ring. On top of that, you’ll stack your wedding band on the big day. You might not think you can wear any more jewellery than this.
But there are plenty of misconceptions when it comes to accessorising your wedding-day look. Some of the most commonly asked questions have to do with wedding jewellery. Depending on your dress, you can rock large chandelier earrings, a statement necklace or even a diamond bracelet. Your wedding day jewellery doesn’t have to fit any sort of mould — what matters most is that you’re happy. That way, you’ll look back on your pictures and have zero regrets about what you wore – or didn’t wear — as you walked down the aisle.
5. Where exactly do I stand?
This is one of the reasons why we have rehearsals: it’s so very important to know where you and your bridal party are supposed to stand before, during and after your ceremony, as well as during any other special moments of the day.
It’s especially important for everyone to know their line-up and spacing before the ceremony, since pictures will capture that moment in the moment — no chance to re-pose if people are awkwardly spaced, facing the wrong way or otherwise ruining the look of the picture. Be sure everyone has their positioning down during the wedding, as well as during the bridal party introductions, first dance and any other time your wedding party will be standing up with you and your forever love.
6. How do I thank everyone for coming?
A receiving line has been a go-to for many years, but it’s falling out of favour for brides and grooms to stand around and say “hello” to every single guest after they just got married. So, you should come up with a plan as to how you’ll do so before the big day so that you don’t miss anyone.
Nowadays, the go-to is the reception round up: brides and grooms walk from table to table, thanking each one for coming. You could also say a few words for a more general thank-you, although personalised ones are politer and have come to be expected of just-married couples.
7. How should we kiss?
This is a common question, but it’s the one without a real answer: it’s up to you and your future spouse to decide what’s appropriate. You probably don’t want to go with an extra-long, visibly passionate kiss, but, hey — at the end of the day, it’s your wedding. And, therefore, it’s up to you to decide what fits the bill.
So, go forth with confidence in planning your ceremony, reception and every other part of your wedding day. With these oft-forgotten questions in mind — and the even bigger ones already on the tip of your tongue — you’re ready to plan the perfect wedding day with full knowledge.
Kacey Bradley is the lifestyle and travel blogger for The Drifter Collective, an eclectic lifestyle blog that expresses various forms of style through the influence of culture and the world around us. Kacey graduated with a degree in Communications while working for a lifestyle magazine. Along with writing for her blog, she frequently writes for sites like US Travel News, Thought Catalog, Style Me Pretty, Tripping.com and more.