We look at part 2 of busting those traditional wedding myths so those old wives tales don’t stand in the way of your perfect day.
You must have a proper first dance together
The thought of throwing shapes in front of your guests is enough to make some couples break into a sweat! “Of course, you don’t have to dance at all, but if you are looking for a less embarrassing alternative, get creative,” says celebrity wedding planner, Liz Taylor at The Taylor Lynn Corporation. “Perhaps your first dance could include everyone rather than just the bride and groom – it can be lots of fun. At one recent real wedding, we even had professional dance instructors on hand to teach everyone the first dance moves – it was a great laugh and got everyone into the party spirit.” Why not get everyone involved? Our favourite is the finalé scene from Dirty Dancing!
You will definitely cry when you find your wedding dress
Planning a wedding can be an emotional rollercoaster – if you are the emotional type. “My married friends kept harping on about how they burst into tears when they found their dream dress, so I think they were a little underwhelmed when I didn’t!” says real bride Ava Grace. “To be honest, I found the expectations that surround all things bridal to be a pressure in themselves. I knew the type of dress I wanted, so my search was pretty easy, I was just happy to get it ordered!” It’s also a myth that family and friends will cry when they see you in your dress. Remember, people show emotion in different ways, so don’t be offended if there are no water works when you finally find the one.
You must give guests a traditional wedding gift list option
Most couples fall into one of two camps when it comes to gifts. Those who love the idea of being given shed loads of traditional wedding pressies, and those who find the whole situation just a little bit cringey! “We’d already lived together for years, so we felt awkward asking for traditional gifts like a dinner service and Champagne glasses,” says real bride Katie Phillips. “We toyed with the idea of having an alternative gift list – you can now ask for anything from travel vouchers to plants for your garden – but eventually opted for a charity wedding list, where guests donated to our chosen good cause and made our day even more special.” We love the idea of having a ‘honeymoon fund’ where guests can donate to your big break.
You must invite everyone possible to the wedding
Costs per head quickly mount up, so it is perfectly okay to prune your guest list! “Many couples have to restrict their wedding invitations to suit a tighter budget, so don’t feel guilty,” says Liz. “Start by making a shortlist of guests that are essential and work from there. Protocol is to invite the eldest generations first – so aunts and uncles over cousins – but there’s little point in inviting an aunt living in New Zealand that you’ve never met. You can arrange drinks with friends and family you couldn’t invite afterwards.” The number one rule is to make these decisions as a couple, fairly cutting guests from each side.
That’s not all folks!
You’ve come through to part 2 of our article on traditional wedding myths. Make sure you read part 1 of traditional wedding myths here.