Your honeymoon should be time for you and your partner to relax together, but what do you do if you have children? Should you leave the kids at home or take them with you? We ask the experts…

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Should you Take Your Children on Honeymoon With you?

If you have children, planning your honeymoon can be tricky. Should you enjoy your first holiday as newlyweds without the kids? Or should you make it into a family holiday? We asked expert life and confidence coach Michele Paradise.

It depends on several factors – the age of your children, your budget and where you plan to go on your honeymoon. The first question to answer is: do you really want your children to go with you? There’s nothing worse than having sulky teenagers or bored toddlers in tow, especially for your first newlywed break. If you don’t sort out their activities and interests beforehand, none of you will have a good time!

You’re going to have to put their needs first before booking the destination. If they’re happy then you’ll have a great time, if not, forget it. You’ll spend most of your time entertaining them and not enjoying your very special trip. You need to find a location that suits everyone’s needs so you can enjoy that special time together with your whole family. That said, does it then no longer become a celebration of your marriage, just another family holiday?

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This is a holiday to have some quality time between the two of you and to celebrate the next stage of your life together. Although some people say that if you are living with your partner beforehand, marriage doesn’t change things much, but it does. You’ve made a legal commitment to each other, so the honeymoon is even more important!

You wanted my advice, so here it is – leave the children at home, go off on a fabulous honeymoon to a location that you’ve never been to before and have a wonderful time. Sit back and relax with no worries or responsibilities and give yourselves a chance to reflect on your big day. Honeymoons are what dreams are made of so be sure that you have some wonderful memories on those cold and wet days when you’re washing up for the third time, you’ll need them!

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Our Real Brides say…

“We’re doing both! We have three kids, so have decided to have a ‘minimoon’ for just us for a couple of nights straight after the wedding, and then a ‘familymoon’ a couple of months later with all five of us.” Hailey

“Our son was three when we married, so we had the choice between a very short honeymoon for just us, as I wouldn’t want to be away from him for long, or a good family holiday to enjoy together. The family holiday won us over and 15 other family members joined us on our honeymoon to Disney World Florida.” Jade-Louise

“It wouldn’t be a honeymoon with children there. There are lots of other times to go on a family vacation!” CJ

“My daughter is nearly 13 so she won’t want to holiday with us much longer – we’re making the most of her now! When she’s left home we can honeymoon every year!” Sara

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20 COMMENTS

  1. We didnt have a honeymoon, wasnt lucky enough to afford one. i personally think it would be more a family holiday However not everyone is lucky enough to have babysitters to look after their kids.

  2. My little one will be two when we get married and I can’t wait to take him away with us. Before I had him I thought I wouldn’t want a child on honeymoon but I would spend the whole time missing him. I also love the fact that his first holiday will be our honeymoon 🙂 x

  3. Me and my partner are going to Australia for a month on our holiday. Once in life time holiday and wudnt want to spend that time away from our little boy plus we want him to experience it with us. So we are taking him with us and then mini honeymoon to venice or paris for few days! X

  4. My husband and i have 2 children together aged 3 and 5. We went away just for 3 nights without them after the wedding and we plan on taking them on a family holiday in the summer, so we get the best of both worlds. Xxx

  5. I think it just depends on the family and the honeymoon. I’d take my son on some and not on others. If we took a cruise to the keys or jamaica, I probably would. If we went to Paris I wouldnt. As I say it just depends.

  6. I know honeymoons are meant for the couple, but if you’ve already made the huge commitment of having children together then I don’t think you are just a couple any longer, you are a family. So I think if you have children then yes, take them. Having said that I don’t have children so maybe I would have a different view if I did!

  7. We will be taking our son on holiday with us. it will be more of a family holiday than honeymoon. He is growing up sooo fast – there will be plenty of time for us to have holidays in the future just the two of us. There will come a time when he won’t want to come with us anymore.

  8. Our kids r our life so thats a big YES from me…ours r coming with us I wouldnt have it any other way! If u dont want kids to go with u get married before u have them I say!

  9. We’re going to new york in 2 weeks without our 2 year old daughter. My mum & dad are taking her away at the same time, so i dont feel as bad knowing that she’ll be having a great time away too……& being spoilt rotten!

  10. Its definitely a personal choice. We wanted a honeymoon away together without our 2yr old in tow as we went on a cruise but in saying that, it was only a 4 day trip as we didnt want to be away from him for too long

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