She is one of the key people in your life, so it follows that the Mother of the bride should be a part of your wedding day planning too. Whether that is a small role or a more involved role, it is entirely up to the two of you. We have a mother of the bride to-do list to give you an idea of roles and responsibilities.
The Official To-do List: Mother Of The Bride Jobs
Your wedding day is a big event for everyone and something your mum will cherish forever. Sharing some of the responsibility and encouraging some involvement will mean a lot.
Mother of the bride to-do list
- Announcing the engagement to the press, locally and nationally
- Working with the bride and groom to draw up the guest list
- Ordering the stationery and chasing it up
- Sending out the invites and keeping an eye on acceptances and regrets
- Supplying the wedding gift details to anyone who asks for them
- Helping to organise the seating plan
- Help you to choose your wedding dress and the bridesmaids’ dresses
- Ordering the wedding cake
- Arranging table decorations
- Making sure all of the guests have got somewhere to stay that night
- Help you to get dressed and ready on the morning of the wedding
- Give the order of service sheets to the ushers
- Organising the buttonholes for key members of the wedding party, including the ushers, best man, the bridegroom, and the two dads
- Look after the gifts during and after the wedding. This includes finding a safe place to store them during the day
- Collect the photo proofs from the photographer while you are away on your honeymoon!
- Look after her – she is going to be working hard for you behind the scenes
- Give her a bouquet at the reception, during the speeches
- Encourage her to wear a complementary outfit to the colour scheme
- Invite her to be involved with choosing or seeing you try on your wedding dress. (It’s one of the things mum’s look forward to)
- Encourage her to meet up with your fiancé’s mum so that they know each other before the day (and don’t wear clashing outfits)
- One of the most important things to remember is to thank her. Don’t forget!
- Exclude her completely
- Forget her on the day – she’ll be longing to be useful
- Leave her to do everything. By tradition, she would be the last to leave the reception, but don’t ask her to stay until the last drink is sunk