Of course it’ll be the happiest day of your life, with the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with, surrounded by the people you love the most. But during this special day you’re allowed to feel a little bit sad, as you remember your nearest and dearest who can’t share the celebrations with you.


You want them to be a part of your day, not to detract from the spirit of it. Here at Wedding Ideas, we often see pictures of brides with small photos tied with a ribbon to their bouquet, or hear stories about emotional speeches made by the bride. You don’t have to make a big statement if it’s going to turn you into a blubbering wreck, there are lots of more subtle but equally poignant ways to remember loved ones who have passed away…

Dedicate a reading

Why not have a close family member dedicate a special reading to lost loved ones? Personally, we like this poem by an unknown author…

If Roses Grow in Heaven

If Roses grow in Heaven,
Lord please pick a bunch for me,
Place them in my Mother’s arms
And tell her they’re from me.
Tell her I love her and miss her,
And when she turns to smile,
Place a kiss upon her cheek
And hold her for awhile.
Because remembering her is easy,
I do it every day,
But there’s an ache within my heart
Because I am missing her today.


This poem is good for anyone else who you want to remember on your big day…

Someone is missing

Let this candle be a loving reminder
that someone is missing today,
Someone our hearts still hold on to,
As we travel along life’s way.
Someone who made life so special,
for all those who gather here,
Someone who won’t be forgotten,
But cherished from year to year.
And now as we pause to remember,
Let us all fondly recall,
how dearly each of us loved him,
and oh… how he loved us all!

Real-life tributes

Here’s what some of our Facebook friends are doing to remember their lost loved ones…


I’m getting married on my grandparents’ anniversary – the 30th of June,” says Michelle Durber.

I went to a wedding where the couple placed a single Lily on the table beside the partner or children of the person who had passed away,” says Facebook friend Jo  Lynch. “I thought it was a really classy way of remembering them but not dwelling on it too much.”

“We had donated money to Cancer Research and purchased charity pins for our guests for the favours,” remembers Abbey-Bernadette Roberts. “My husband and I had both lost a grandparent to cancer. I’m having ‘Somewhere over the Rainbow’ played as we sign the register which was played at my brother’s funeral. I’m also having my late grandmother’s ring on my bouquet and small photos of my brother and late uncle tied to it, too.”

Hopefully this has given you some ideas and inspiration. Hugs to you if you’re missing someone close today.


  1. I’m playing Nat king Cole unforgettable when I’m signing the register as my grandfather sadly passed last year & it was his favourite song. Also putting my flowers on his resting place x

  2. I had a heart shaped memo board and put photos of both sets of my grandparents on their wedding day on to remember them by x i also wore a silver engraved locket that my gran left me and had her photo inside that x

  3. We are paying tribute to my mom by lighting a personalised candle I’ve had made which we will light at the beginning of the ceremony, then we will have my moms tiara from her wedding by our cake and also a picture of my mom & dad on their wedding day by our finger print tree xx in Dubrovnik you are not allowed to set lanterns off so we have had an extra balloon with a coloured led light in to set off for her xxx

  4. I had my husbands grandmas brooch on my bouquet as she was very dear to me and died the previous christmas.

    My dad was mentioned troughout the day with everyone paying respects to him in their speeches and my mum gave me a CD the morning of the wedding which I used to listen to with him. I had his sixpence for my shoe too, but it strangelu disappeared on the morning of the wedding only to turn up the following day in the place I had put it. Very odd. Think it was him playing tricks on me 🙂

    I left from my Nana’s house, which was the house my aunty left from 25 years earlier, she was ‘given away’ by my dad and her husband my uncle John did the honours of giving me away. It was all a nod in my dads direction and was a very emotional journey from the house to the venue. Me and Uncle John talked about my dad all the way there. It was a beautiful journey.

  5. I had picture charms of my both our nans [both mums side]on my bouquet , and an old brooch which was my other nan[dad side]on my bouquet handle,and my mum borrowed me my nans engagement ring to wear along side mine on my other hand.

  6. My grandad was one of my favourite people and he passed away at the end of February. Our wedding will be in the church where his funeral took place and then our reception is at his favourite place to go and have a meal so it will be like he’s there in spirit. I’m also going to put a bouquet on his stone in the church graveyard on the day.

  7. My sister always said when she got married her colours would be cadburys purple,unfortunately she died 18 months ago and never married. My colour scheme is Cadbury purple in memory of her and after the wedding my bouquet will be placed on her grave. X

  8. We’re lighting candles and displaying wedding pictures plus I will have something of my Grandma’s on my bouquet. My bouquet will then be split between both our grandma’s graves. Xxx

  9. Whn my granny died my parents asked me to design a bench in her memory which we got our blacksmith friend to make. We are taking it to our venue and will use it as much as poss in our photos x

  10. We’ll be having our grandparents’ wedding photos on display at the reception, I’m hoping to have tulips in my bouquet because they were my grandad’s favourite and I’ll then be placing the bouquet on their headstone after the wedding. I’m also wearing my great-gran’s necklace and having one of her brooches made into a hair piece.

  11. I have the very first gift my grandad gave my geandma (dad’s parents), a locket with their pictures inside to pin onto my button, brooch and silk flowers bouquet. I think I will ask my cousin Sarah Keating if I can borrow some jewellry that was my auntie’s (dad’s sister) to wear as my something borrowed and putting pictures of all family couples on their wedding day (or a nice couple pic if I can’t find a wedding one).


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