How To Write An Amazing Mr And Mrs Wedding Speech
Mr & Mrs speeches are set to be a big trend throughout 2018. Here, the wedding speech writing experts at Speechy reveal the tips you need to nail your double act.
Why give a joint speech?
Why would a bride want to add to her ‘to do’ list? Well because a joint speech guarantees something a bit special; a moment where guests realise this wedding is a little less ordinary. Without a doubt, joint speeches are far more entertaining & memorable than a traditional groom speech.
When a bride and groom give a joint speech it immediately says ‘hey, we’re a team’. It naturally creates a comedy double act and gets people laughing. No one has to speak ‘on behalf’ of anyone else, meaning both the bride and the groom get to pay a personal tribute to their folks and say a big thank you to everyone for being part of their day.
The writing and rehearsal stages of a joint speech can be fun too. In the midst of table plan debates and budget negotiations, writing a joint speech is a chance for the couple to remind themselves why they actually like each other!
It’s also good practice for the marriage itself; working out who does what, arguing over the important stuff and, hopefully at least, learning how to work together.
To any couples wanting to give it a go… here’s how…
Set aside an afternoon where you can both sit down to work out the basics… who do you want to thank, what do you want to say, how will you get people laughing and how can you make the speech memorable?
Find your theme
You need a theme to help you thread together everything you want to say. Your speech needs to sound like a story as opposed to a random collection of anecdotes and thank yous.
Maybe your theme is what you’ve learnt from each other over the years or maybe your speech imagines what your marriage will be like when you’re old and grey. Once you’ve found your theme it makes writing your speech easier. But first you need to decide on your double act…
Develop your roles
Work out the roles you’ll play when delivering the speech. Who will be the straight man in this double act and who will take the lead? It may be obvious. It may also be a relief to the groom if it’s his bride taking on the majority of the work.
Think about how other people see your relationship. Is one of you louder than the other? Do you contradict or mirror each other? Is one of you the naughtier one? See if you can reflect this in the way you present.
Imagine you’re a couple in a sitcom, exaggerate your differences and have a laugh with how you manage to live together. Conclude with how you actually couldn’t imagine living with anyone else.
Decide on your double act
Work out the roles you’ll play when delivering the speech. Who will be the straight man in this double act and who will take the lead? It may be obvious. It may also be a relief to the groom if it’s his bride taking on the majority of the work. Think about how other people see your relationship. Is one of you louder than the other? Do you contradict or mirror each other? Is one of you the naughtier one? See if you can reflect this in the way you present. Imagine you’re a couple in a sitcom, exaggerate your differences and have a laugh with how you manage to live together. Conclude with how you actually couldn’t imagine living with anyone else.
It’s almost impossible to write a speech side by side. You’ll end up arguing over every single word.
Think, honestly now, who’s the better writer. Once you’ve decided on the basic structure of the speech, let the best writer attempt a first draft of the speech. When the other one reads it it’s important they refrain from any groaning, eye rolling or shouting ‘are you serious?!?’. Instead they must be thankful and offer constructive feedback to help make the speech ‘even better’.
Adopting this relaxed and calm manner is helpful in all future negotiation (so we’re told).
Just because there’s two of you speaking doesn’t mean you want to double the length of a traditional groom’s speech. Still aim for under ten minutes. Keeping it short, keeps it funny and keeps people wanting more.
The romantic bit
Giving a joint speech doesn’t mean you have to miss that moment where the groom’s really lovely about you. Have a bit in the speech (towards the end) which you keep secret from each other and where you each get to be lovely about the other one. Feel free to give each other a hug if the notion takes you. No kissing though.
A joint speech requires more rehearsal.
It’s crucial that there’s lots of interaction between the two of you throughout the speech even if it’s only the occasional ‘ad lib’ interjection. Also think about the facial expression of the person who isn’t speaking. Rehearse that too!
Make sure there’s two mics at the venue if you need them. And finally make sure you both really enjoy it.
Speechy is the one-stop-shop for all your wedding speech needs. Whether it’s a template or a bespoke speech you’re after, Speechy can help you craft an awesome speech that will add a special moment to your day. Visit speechy.co.uk
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