On your wedding day, you’ll probably have more photographs taken of you than you ever will again.

And you know which you’ll probably look best in? The ones snapped on mobiles by your friends. Why? Because it’s in those photographs that you’re likely to look most relaxed, rather than the more formal posed ones.

Which is a bit of a pity really.

The thing is, there is a way around this. Last Friday, I went to the National Wedding Show and sat in on a deportment masterclass given by ex-model Michele Paradise, who runs The Bridal Coach.

For half an hour I listened to her top hints and tips on deportment and how to make sure you look completely fabulous in ALL your wedding photographs – not just the casual snaps.

Here’s what Michele had to say:

  • A white wedding dress throws off a very unflattering ‘halo effect’ which you have to counteract with your posture.  You need to create light and shade yourself by moving and holding your body differently.
  • When you’re being photographed, stand in a model ‘T-shape’, with one foot in front of the other, turning your hips slightly to one side. Don’t stand dead straight ahead like a soldier.
  • Your posture is very important. Sitting and standing up straight makes a woman look thinner and slouching is very ageing (think of those road signs of an old couple). Practise standing up straight by holding a broom handle between your shoulder blades and pulling in your core (tummy) muscles. You’ll look slimmer and more confident in less than five minutes by doing this.
  • Any tension you feel is likely to show in your hands, which will be on display all day. Shake them out before the photographs to relax.
  • Hold your bouquet by your hip, slightly to one side. Don’t hold it too high (you’ll hide that beautiful detailing on your bodice) and don’t hold it too low – because that will give you a slouching effect too.
  • Remember to put your ‘ring’ finger on top of your bouquet, so that your beautiful engagement ring and wedding ring show.
  • Smile and remember things that make you happy. You’re marrying the man of your dreams – that should do the trick!
  • Remember to smile with your eyes too – not just your mouth.

No matter where you live, you can benefit from all the tricks Michele learned during her time as a model by following her six week online coaching programme which is available on a CD.

I absolutely loved this masterclass on posture, and spent the rest of my weekend posing in front of a full length mirror, watching Michele’s hints and tips on deportment really working their magic.

Try it and see – you’ll love the results and you’ll love your wedding photographs so much more if you’re looking your absolute best!

Check out our fab interview with Michele at this years National Wedding Show

Top photo credit:  Via National Wedding Show


  1. There are some really great tips here, I’m sure that many brides will find it useful to keep these thoughts in mind, and it might help to relax you more for the photographs if you’ve thought about this in advance.

    It’s also worth pointing out that a good photographer will always pose you and photograph you in the very best way possible. I feel that as the photographer, it’s my job is to worry about these things, so that you, the bride, can relax and enjoy the day. If you are at all worried about how you are going to look in the photos then chat to your photographer about it before the wedding day and listen to their advice. Most photographers offer engagement shoots, where you can practice posing and get used to being in front of the camera in a more relaxed environment. But above all, don’t get too hung up on getting it all right – like I said, it’s the photographer’s job to do that for you, after all, that’s what you’re paying them for!!

  2. I was there and saw this lady getting helpful advice up on stage! Good ideas on how to carry the bouquet – such a shame when gorgeous flowers cannot be seen properly, but at the same time they shouldn’t be held so that they hide the detailing on the dress. Too often I see brides swinging their bouquets around, or leaving them hanging. However, at the end of the day just enjoy yourself and listen to the advice of your photographer when it comes to getting good shots of you with your flowers……..

  3. I agree with Helen that a photographer can certainly help relax a Bride and Groom and will always aim to make them look at their best. The great thing about engagement shoots is there is no pressure of the big day bearing on the clients shoulders and it is a great chance for the photographer to know how the clients are in front of the camera. It also is a chance to experiment and really let the clients personalities shine through.

    At the end of the day Wedding photography it is about forming a good relationship, making it fun and as Helen says leaving the worrying to the photographer.

  4. I love this post! I think this is why reportage photography has become so popular, often the ‘gems’ amongst the wedding photographs are the ones that capture the spontaneous, relaxed moments and natural emotion. Always good to have some more formal pics of the beautiful bride though and these tips are ceratinly helpful!


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