One of the groom’s duties is choosing his best man, as well as the rest of the groomsmen. But how do you make that decision? We’ve got a few things for you grooms to think about…
Think: options
Write up a little list of best man ‘contenders’ – your brother, your cousin, your dad, your best mate from when you were little, or a more recent one. The choice is really yours, but be realistic about who would make a good best man, or who would actually want the responsibility of a best man.
Think: duties
…this is where it pays to think of the duties they’ll need to take on! From sorting a stag do that all the groomsmen will enjoy to the big day responsibilities of welcoming guests, calming the groom, and of course the best man speech. Whoever you choose will need to be reliable enough for the role, as well as have, at least minimal, organisational skills…
Think: personalities
Do you think they’d manage with this level of responsibility? What about doing the speech in front of all your wedding guests? Being a best man can be a lot of pressure on a person, especially when it comes to the big day itself. But the question is, who d’ya think has got what it takes?
Think: wifey
As much as it’s the groom’s decision of who gets the role of best man, it’s always a good idea to choose someone that gets on well with the bride-to-be. That way, she’ll be worrying less about all of the group’s antics on the stag do, and the best man speech won’t be totally orientated around making a fool of the groom… (Maybe even making fun of the bride, too!).
Think: speeches
Talking of embarrassing speeches, before picking your best man, you should consider what kind of speech you’d want to get from him. The best man speech is something that is much-anticipated by the rest of the bridal party as well as the guests at the wedding. Whether you want a speech that cracks jokes throughout, or something a little more mature perhaps, think about the best person to do that. Check out the 6 types of best man and the speeches you’ll get for a bit more of an insight.
Think: more than one?
Do you know what? You don’t even just have to have just one best man. If it’s a tricky choice between two, why not just go for both? This will help the best man out in terms of splitting the responsibilities between them, and be a great help for you too! And hey, having to fit in a second best man speech means that you’ll just have to cut short your best mate’s speech full of humiliating stories. What a shame.
What are the other members of the bridal party and their responsibilities we hear you ask? Find out right here…
