Want to know how to write the perfect groom speech? Professional speechwriter and founder of Great Speech Writing, Lawrence Bernstein, shares his tips on delivering the best groom speech at your wedding…

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Groom speech tips…

Talk to your bride

The more sincere elements of your speech may be far more powerful and personal if, when you’re talking about your wife, you actually look at and make eye contact with her. And address her as ‘you’ rather than ‘she’.

Mention how your bride looks

Beautiful, gorgeous, stunning …. however you choose to say it, make sure you remark on her appearance. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity to tell your wife in front of a large collection of your friends and family that you fancy her.

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Leave out the ex-girlfriends

However ‘relaxed’ your wife is about your past, there’s a time and a place for referencing the exes and the Groom’s speech isn’t one of them. I’m a big believer in a speech ‘riskometer’ where anything that could cause offence to anyone is edited out at source.

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Keep your groom speech original

It’s fine to include the odd predictable line (‘my wife and I’ for instance), but don’t go overboard or your speech will sound like an internet cut and paste. It’s better to sacrifice humour for originality than the other way round.

Balance the humour with sincerity

It isn’t an opportunity for a ten minute comedy stand up routine, so try to balance your hilarious one-liners with a good dollop of sincerity. What is it about your wife that you love? How has your life changed (for the better!) since she’s been in it? Which of your bad habits does she have to put up with? Most importantly, make your guests feel that they have sacrificed an entire day of their lives (with all the associated costs) for a damn good reason.

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Liaise with the father of the bride

Assuming he is speaking before you, it’s worth checking that you are not going to be duplicating too many thanks or anecdotes about your bride, how you met, or the proposal.

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Toast your new wife

It goes without saying to toast your new wife at your wedding but nothing gets more of heart-warming cheer than the line “my wife and I…”. Yes it’s predicable and a little bit cheesy, but the novelty of hearing it for the first time never fails to please your new bride, or your guests for that matter. And that cheer will relax a nervous speaker no end.

Thank your new in-laws

Your bride might not get the opportunity to thank them publicly for all they’ve done for her, so it’s up to you to do it on her behalf – and they’ll love you for it.

Mention your own parents

And not just for contributing the flowers. Looking back over decades of parenting, it is unlikely that their contribution to the wedding is actually their finest moment. Thank them for lifts to school when you were ten, freezing afternoons on the side of a muddy sports field watching you make a fool of yourself, or for helping you learn to drive; anything that demonstrates the love and support they have provided for so long.


For more tips on speech writing from Lawrence, visit: www.greatspeechwriting.co.uk.

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