First dance

Not sure whether to have a first dance at your wedding? Chris Powell from The Band Boutique explains why this charming tradition is definitely worth including

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In addition to this, the first dance is a great ice breaker to move the day from meal to massive party, and 99 times out of 100, the dance floor gets fuller faster when there is a first dance, compared to when there isn’t.

How do we pick a first dance song?

When we got engaged, Laura and I didn’t have a song that was ‘our song’, so we didn’t have a clue what to play for our first dance. We both love music, and there are so many tunes that represent highlights in our relationship. So, we just went for something that was fun and had good lyrics – ‘You Make My Dreams’ by Hall and Oates!

First dance

If you aren’t sure which song to pick, try writing down separate lists of at least 10 songs without conferring. Songs that make you smile and think of your other half when you listen to them. The ones that give you goose bumps, or send those tiny little hairs on the back of your neck standing on end.

These don’t necessarily have to be songs you think the other person will like (usually there’ll be some shared ones anyway), just ones you’re happy to admit to yourself that you like (and maybe even one or two you’d never admit to liking – you may be surprised). Put the lists together without judgement. If there’s one similarity – bingo – you have your first dance!

If there’s a few, then make a playlist, and have a listen together. Listen to the words. Do you agree with the sentiment? Maybe google the meaning of the lyrics. It’s always worth checking the theme behind a song. I remember someone asking for Every Breath You Take as a first dance, thinking it was a lovely love song. Actually it’s about obsession, jealousy, and stalking!

If there are none that match, make a playlist of your partner’s suggestions, and get them to make a playlist of yours. Listen to them when you’re not together and see if you get those goosebumps from any of your partner’s suggestions.

Our first dance song is fast, but I’m not a dancer! What do we do?

If you’ve managed to pick a fast song, and aren’t too keen on dancing in front of your guests, see if your band can make an arrangement for you. Lots of our acts are more than happy to make a slowed arrangement of your first dance – Laura and I asked Mister Kanish to slow down the first verse and chorus of ‘You Make My Dreams‘, and it was great. They then rocked back into the second verse and everyone jumped onto the dance floor.

First dance suggestions

You Are The Best Thing – Ray Lamontagne

You’re All I Need To Get By – Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell

It Must Be Love – Madness

Keep On Movin’ – 5ive

One Day Like This – Elbow

You’re My Best Friend – Queen

Lover Of The Light – Mumford and Sons

Dancing In The Dark – Bruce Springsteen

Mountains – Biffy Clyro

Stand By Me – Ben E. King

Your Body Is A Wonderland – John Mayer

Mean To Me – Brett Eldridge

Still not convinced?

If you still aren’t sold on having a first dance, that’s completely fine – my second piece of advice would be that you shouldn’t let anyone tell you want to do on your wedding day. However, if it’s due to a fear of dancing alone in front of your friends, you can always convince the best man or bridesmaids to join you with their partners, then the dancefloor is already full for the band’s first set.

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Mister Kanish, Chris’ band

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