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Getting married and want to avoid any wedding disasters like those on Don’t Tell the Bride? Here’s what you can learn from the E4 show where the groom is left in charge…

The event organisers at Rivenhall Oaks know how important it is for your wedding planning and organisation to run smoothly. They give their four keys lessons you can learn from Don’t Tell the Bride

Don’t leave everything to the groom

Let’s get the most obvious one out of the way – don’t leave all of the planning and decision making to your partner. If the programme has shown us anything, it’s how stressful weddings can be when you’re left in the dark.

However, it’s equally important to remember not to take on the whole process by yourself. The wedding is between two people and so the responsibility should be split. Make sure you ask for help when you need it!

Watch the wedding budget

The best episodes are always the ones where the groom wastes the budget on his stag or spends half of the money on an overly expensive plan that you know the bride will hate.

You might be sitting at home smugly thinking you’d be able to spend the £14,000 far better, but in practice It may not be that simple. Try to keep extravagant purchases to a minimum and only splash out on unnecessary extras once you’ve got the basics in place.

Think about your partner 

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The one things that always shocks viewers is the grooms apparent disregard for anything his bride likes. She hates animals? Get married in a zoo. She’s scared of heights? Arrange a zip wire. Although this makes for good television, it may not make for a great partnership.

When planning your special day, you’re likely to have an idea about how you want things to look, but ultimately, it’s about compromise. Remember to keep in mind what they would like on the day too.

Love always wins

The main reason that people tune in to the show is to watch a poor bride kicking off on her wedding day after her fantasy of her dream day has faded.

There’s usually tears and arguments, but in the end, they both tend to admit they’ve had the best day of their lives and maybe the groom knows them better than they know their selves.

Planning a wedding can be stressful and tensions may rise but try to keep in the back of your mind what the day is all about – love.

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