Yay! You’re engaged! This is a huge step for you as a couple and it’s definitely a time to celebrate. But while we don’t mean to burst your blissfully loved-up bubble, there are some things you should know about getting engaged…

11 things they don't tell you about getting engaged... you might be loved up and on cloud nine, but are you ready for these realities to kick in?
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SHOW ME THE RING

Everyone expects you to be flashing the perfect ring as soon as you’ve said yes. ‘Show me the ring’ will become one of the most common things you hear from friends and family, but it might not be so easy. Unless your man has sneakily sized up your finger or bought you a ring before, your engagement ring might not fit. Fear not, a trip to the jewellers is all you need to have it re-sized, so don’t be disheartened.

HOW DID HE PROPOSE?

Yes, when people ask you this they do want to hear your proposal story, and you’ll probably love telling it! But brace yourselves – often this is a leading question. While people love to hear about your happy moment, they also love to relive their own, so get ready to hear more wedding stories than you ever really wanted to…

WHEN I GOT MARRIED…

Likewise, with the offers of help will also come lots of ideas. People just love to reminisce and, if they loved something about their day, they’ll think you will love it too. Listen and thank people for their suggestions and support – they all mean well – but then feel free to forget the ideas that don’t quite suit you as a couple.

THERE’S SO MUCH TO DO

When your friends or family members got married, you probably thought they were exaggerating when it came to the planning. Now it’s your turn though, you’ll realise just how much there is to think about. Weddings take a lot of co-ordinating, both for your guests and suppliers, so use our free planning checklist and get stuck in as soon as possible. That to do list won’t shorten itself…

IT COSTS HOW MUCH?!

Equally, it’s often a surprise to couples just how much even some of the smallest things can cost. One candle will set you back relatively little, but enough to cover ten tables is another story. Get as many quotes in from suppliers and research your costs early to avoid your budget running away from you.

11 things they don't tell you about getting engaged... you might be loved up and on cloud nine, but are you ready for these realities to kick in?
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NOTHING BUT WEDDINGS

Somehow the topic of weddings seems to creep into every conversation you have at the moment. Enjoy the excitement of being engaged and planning your dream wedding, but make sure you have other interests, too!

PARENTS IN LAW

Family is always a sensitive subject if things aren’t going smoothly. If relatives are being overbearing or giving you a hard time, the best thing to do is to talk about it. Tread carefully, though. However frustrating the situation might be, they are still family. Try not to say something you’ll regret or put your partner in the middle.

WHEN WILL THE LITTLE ONES BE ON THE WAY?

The question almost every couple has to answer when they get engaged. Whether you are planning, have kids already or want to keep them at arms length, be ready for lots of people to ask, rightly or wrongly. These are some more questions you’ll probably find yourselves facing – get ready!

WHERE ON EARTH IS ‘THE ONE’

Some brides are lucky and their first step into a boutique brings their dream dress. For others, the search is somewhat longer and a little bit stressful. Don’t give up hope. It’s completely normal to visit lots of boutiques and try on tens of dresses before you find the one that makes you feel like a bride. Take it as a good excuse for lots of girly shopping trips – you’ll never have one this good again!

11 things they don't tell you about getting engaged... you might be loved up and on cloud nine, but are you ready for these realities to kick in?
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BEST FRIENDS DO NOT ALWAYS GOOD BRIDESMAIDS MAKE

Your best friends for years and years might not be as easy bridesmaids as you’d hoped. You might struggle to agree on a dress, hairstyle or accessories. Don’t let it get you down and definitely don’t fall out over it though – compromise is the name of the game here. You’ll be glad you did! For more help keeping your girls happy, check out this guide.

LOVE CONQUERS ALL

You’ll be loved up to the max after getting engaged, but as the budget and planning realities of a wedding set in, your relationship might be tested. Stressful decisions will need to be made. If you find yourselves getting snappy with each other, take a minute out to put things into perspective and remember why you’re doing it in the first place. These top tips will help you to be the best bride and groom team. Ever.

 

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