We all say we won’t do it when we first get engaged. We all want to be that laid-back bride who keeps her cool and yet still has everything fabulously under control. We all try not to become too obsessed or too over the top… but if you find yourself fitting some of these 11 signs, you might just be becoming a bridezilla after all!
1. If your husband or bride-to-be doesn’t talk to you about the wedding at least once per day, you’ll ask him why he isn’t interested (read: lecture him on why he should be!). Check out how to keep him interested here, but remember, there’s more to life than your wedding!
2. At the same time, even though you want your other half to have his or her own opinions, you’re dreading the day their opinions differ from yours. That just won’t do.
3. Bridesmaid dress shopping is looming over you and you’re already worried. You just know that they won’t want to wear all the accessories and dresses you pick for them, but you’re not letting anyone else change how you have your dream day. Here’s how to keep both your bridesmaids and yourself happy!
4. If you hear your mum, your future mum-in-law, or anyone else’s mum for that matter, tell you how they did things for their wedding one more time, you might actually throw a full on, flounce-out-of-the-house style strop. Keep calm and keep boundaries in place – let them know how much help is appreciated.
5. You’ve found the perfect invitations, but you can’t get the right colours with the right design in one invitation, so you give the budget the brush off and have your invitations made bespoke, instead. They had to be right, right?
6. You know you shouldn’t get involved in the stag do, just like your h2b wouldn’t dream of dabbling in your hen arrangements, but you still find yourself stressing out, asking too many questions and setting one too many rules.
7. Every conversation ends up being about the wedding – even if you started off talking about the weekly food shop.
8. You’ve got your list of must-have photos so you’re well prepared and your photos should all turn out swimmingly, but… you’re already worrying that your guests won’t throw the confetti right to get that perfect shot or your photographer will somehow mess it up. Have faith in your suppliers – you chose them for a reason. They will get the photo.
9. When a guest calls to ask if they can bring their other half, you’re annoyed to the max. No they can’t – they weren’t on the invitation for a reason and you won’t be forking out for a three-course banquet and Champagne for just anyone, not to mention re-doing your seating plan, even if it would make your guest happy!
10. If guests don’t spend half the day telling you how beautiful you look, how perfect the décor is, how delicious the cake, how inspired the food choices, you’ll definitely notice and definitely take it personally. You spent months making sure every detail comes together, so those compliments have been earned.
11. Your wedding just has to be better than everyone else’s. Period. While it’s okay to want the best for your day, keep in mind that everyone has a different idea of what the best actually is and a different budget to make it possible, so don’t let yourself be disheartened by comparisons.
While it can be easy to get so wrapped up in planning your dream wedding that even the slightest mistake spells meltdown, try as hard as you possibly can to keep it under control.
If there’s one thing our real brides and grooms tell us time and again, it’s that it’s only you who’ll notice any small mistakes on the day. Your guests won’t know things haven’t gone exactly to plan, so don’t let it worry you if they do. You’ll finish the day married to the love of your life, and that’s all that really matters.