Mother of the bride to-do list

She’s one of the key people in your life, so it follows that she’s heavily involved in your wedding. Here’s how to make the most of the mother of the bride.

Traditionally the mother of the bride is the host of your wedding party – the reception. It is her job to make sure that everything goes according to plan. Other jobs you can safely assign to your mum include:

Mother of the bride to-do list

  1. mother of the bride Announcing the engagement to the press, locally and nationally
  2. Working with the bride and groom to draw up the guest list
  3. Ordering the stationery and chasing it up
  4. Sending out the invites and keeping an eye on acceptances and regrets
  5. Supplying the wedding gift details to anyone who asks for them
  6. Helping to organise the seating plan
  7. Help you to choose your dress and the bridesmaids’ dresses
  8. Planning the flowers for the ceremony and reception
  9. Ordering the wedding cake
  10. Arranging table decorations
  11. Making sure all of the guests have got somewhere to stay that night
  12. Help you to get dressed and ready on the morning of the wedding
  13. Give the order of service sheets to the ushers
  14. Organising the buttonholes for key members of the wedding party, including the ushers, best man, bridegroom, and the two dads
  15. Look after the gifts during and after the wedding. This includes finding a safe place to store them during the day
  16. Collect the photo proofs from the photographer while you are on honeymoon
  17. Organise the photo list – send out the right ones to the right people. You may want her to chase up your photos while you are away on your honeymoon, too. It’s great if the contact sheets are already waiting for you to look through when you get back home.

Remember…

  • DO Look after her – she is going to be working hard for you behind the scenes
  • DO Give her a bouquet at the reception, during the speeches
  • DO Encourage her to wear a complementary outfit to the colour scheme
  • DO Invite her to be involved with choosing your dress. It’s the most special bit for her
  • DO Encourage her to meet up with your fiancé’s mum regularly so that they know each other before the day (and don’t wear clashing outfits)
  • DON’T forget to thank her
  • DON’T exclude her from anything
  • DON’T forget her on the day – she’ll be longing to be useful
  • DON’T leave her to do everything. By tradition, she would be the last to leave the reception, but don’t ask her to stay until the last drink is sunk
  • DON’T forget to book her in with the hairdresser and nail technician in the run-up to your big day
  • DON’T let her interfere. It’s your day really…

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Jade is a sucker for a rock god and can often be heard purring over their latest exploits. A lifelong Liverpool fan, she loves a bit of rounders too. Just don't get her angry, she's a feisty one! Owner of two ginger cats called Mr Sprinkles and Thomas O'Malley.